Some people are born leaders. They take control of difficult situations with confidence. They inspire others naturally. And it all seems to come so easily. But if leadership doesn’t seem to be one of his natural traits, you may wonder how to teach your child leadership skills.
And the good news is you can. Research has shown that the leadership abilities that appear to be inborn traits can actually be developed and nurtured during childhood:
How can you help your child build leadership abilities during his formative middle school years? Here are a few suggestions from Brandon Odom, Head of Middle School at Fessenden, one of the top Massachusetts private schools.
Middle schoolers often feel “betwixt and between,” Brandon says. They’re not quite old enough to do the things they really want to do and yet they’re not quite young enough to be the baby of most groups. So when they have the opportunity to be the older, experienced ones, for a change, they relish it.
Brandon has seen this work well at The Fessenden School.
“Our Middle School boys have lunch with our kindergartners and read picture books with them, and they love it,” he reports. “The kindergarten students love it too. They shout, ‘Oh, there’s my reader!’ when they see them in the hall.”
Leaders rarely start at the top, as you may have experienced in your own life as a professional, volunteer, or community member. Frequently, leadership begins by simply being willing to serve, to “lend a hand,” when a hand is needed.
“I’m always interested in boys who lead by volunteering or staying to help after an event and pick up. Or boys who are willing to serve on a committee that needs help, but they’re not going to be the one in charge of it,” Brandon says. “They’re not running for office, but those are the boys that are going to move the world some day. The ones who just think, ‘What needs to be done in a situation? I can do it.’”
If you’re thinking about a Massachusetts private middle school, look for a school where developing leadership skills is a core part of the curriculum.
At The Fessenden School, for example, every sixth grader leads the Middle School’s morning meeting at least once, “and sometimes,” twice a year.
“I help them script it; they orchestrate it. They get up front. They hold the microphone. They make sure it runs according to schedule,” Brandon describes. “And as teachers, we just sit and watch. We don’t feel like we need to orchestrate it because we have confidence the sixth graders will be leading.”
Here are a few online resources for helping your child develop leadership skills.